Re: Were you ever suspicious of a former partner?

by Guest Mon Apr 15, 2013 9:25 am

Syl wrote:
philagain wrote:
Syl wrote:

I think you are right Phil, I think if you both love each other relationships can survive most things if you both work at getting it back together.
Personally I would find infidelity a huge hurdle to get over though...but thats just me.

Oh i was none to happy about it and made his life a misery for a number of months...I slept with an ex of mine and rubbed his nose in that!

Oooh...harsh.
Sometimes it's better to just cut your losses. Like you said though when you have history OR property together, it's not always that simple.

Harsh worked though as this happened a number of years ago!...I think that i might of burnt his favourite shirt as well which didn't go down too well roflmao

by Guest Mon Apr 15, 2013 9:27 am

.....Talk about a man possessed!

LOL

by **Syl** Mon Apr 15, 2013 9:28 am

philagain wrote:
Syl wrote:
philagain wrote:

Oh i was none to happy about it and made his life a misery for a number of months...I slept with an ex of mine and rubbed his nose in that!

Oooh...harsh.
Sometimes it's better to just cut your losses. Like you said though when you have history OR property together, it's not always that simple.

Harsh worked though as this happened a number of years ago!...I think that i might of burnt his favourite shirt as well which didn't go down too well

Haha...you sound like you are the kind who sews prawns in the curtain lining before they leave Phil. Laughing

by Guest Mon Apr 15, 2013 9:30 am

Syl wrote:
philagain wrote:
Syl wrote:

Oooh...harsh.
Sometimes it's better to just cut your losses. Like you said though when you have history OR property together, it's not always that simple.

Harsh worked though as this happened a number of years ago!...I think that i might of burnt his favourite shirt as well which didn't go down too well

Haha...you sound like you are the kind who sews prawns in the curtain lining before they leave Phil.

...There is a maniac inside me but i keep him under control for the most part!

by **Gabby** Mon Apr 15, 2013 9:33 am

philagain wrote:
Syl wrote:
philagain wrote:

Harsh worked though as this happened a number of years ago!...I think that i might of burnt his favourite shirt as well which didn't go down too well

Haha...you sound like you are the kind who sews prawns in the curtain lining before they leave Phil.

...There is a maniac inside me but i keep him under control for the most part!

Is he happy with that?

by Guest Mon Apr 15, 2013 9:36 am

Gabby wrote:
philagain wrote:
Syl wrote:

Haha...you sound like you are the kind who sews prawns in the curtain lining before they leave Phil.

...There is a maniac inside me but i keep him under control for the most part!

Is he happy with that?

.....he seems to be ...The maniac is inside of me that i keep under control...I think that we control each other Very Happy

by **Gabby** Mon Apr 15, 2013 9:38 am

Syl wrote:
philagain wrote:
Syl wrote:

Oooh...harsh.
Sometimes it's better to just cut your losses. Like you said though when you have history OR property together, it's not always that simple.

Harsh worked though as this happened a number of years ago!...I think that i might of burnt his favourite shirt as well which didn't go down too well

Haha...you sound like you are the kind who sews prawns in the curtain lining before they leave Phil.

Or kippers under the car bonnet, lol

by Guest Mon Apr 15, 2013 9:41 am

Gabby wrote:
Syl wrote:
philagain wrote:

Harsh worked though as this happened a number of years ago!...I think that i might of burnt his favourite shirt as well which didn't go down too well

Haha...you sound like you are the kind who sews prawns in the curtain lining before they leave Phil.

Or kippers under the car bonnet, lol

He stalked an ex partner and threw bricks through his window.... roflmao

by **jezzi** Mon Apr 15, 2013 9:44 am

Melfi wrote:
jezzi wrote:I don't know why people that choose to remain single get dissed.

I know quite a few people that enjoy having the freedom to do what they want when they want.

I love being single. I don't want a partner. I don't feel I miss out on anything either.

As for this lonely in old age shit. Your partner could die at anytime so that's that sketched fucked

Do you get "dissed" for being single??

No and quite a few people over the years have told me they wished they were single.

It was Lemons comment to ravy about ' something about being lonely in old age and do they enjoy being single, that got me wondering why,some people look on being single as if there's something wrong with it.

by **Syl** Mon Apr 15, 2013 9:49 am

I have a friend who is single, she didn't plan to be she just never met anyone she felt she wanted to be with, she is in her late 50's now and resigned to the fact she will stay single..
She is pretty content with her lot. I think thats the key, if you are content with your own life it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

Our life is ours to live...no one elses.

by **Gabby** Mon Apr 15, 2013 9:49 am

You're far from lonely being single..... there's no fucking restrictions! lol

by **Melfi** Mon Apr 15, 2013 9:55 am

Syl wrote:I have a friend who is single, she didn't plan to be she just never met anyone she felt she wanted to be with, she is in her late 50's now and resigned to the fact she will stay single..
She is pretty content with her lot. I think thats the key, if you are content with your own life it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

Our life is ours to live...no one elses.

I think I'd struggle to feel content alone at that age tbh.

by **Syl** Mon Apr 15, 2013 9:58 am

Melfi wrote:
Syl wrote:I have a friend who is single, she didn't plan to be she just never met anyone she felt she wanted to be with, she is in her late 50's now and resigned to the fact she will stay single..
She is pretty content with her lot. I think thats the key, if you are content with your own life it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

Our life is ours to live...no one elses.

I think I'd struggle to feel content alone at that age tbh.

I would too, but she has never actually lived with anyone so what you have never had I suppose you never miss.
She lived with her Mum, she died long ago and since then she has been on her own, but she has a pretty good social life and is still working.
I have fixed her up in the past to come out with us a couple of times in a foursome...nothing has come of it though.

by **Melfi** Mon Apr 15, 2013 10:11 am

Syl wrote:
Melfi wrote:
Syl wrote:I have a friend who is single, she didn't plan to be she just never met anyone she felt she wanted to be with, she is in her late 50's now and resigned to the fact she will stay single..
She is pretty content with her lot. I think thats the key, if you are content with your own life it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

Our life is ours to live...no one elses.

I think I'd struggle to feel content alone at that age tbh.

I would too, but she has never actually lived with anyone so what you have never had I suppose you never miss.
She lived with her Mum, she died long ago and since then she has been on her own, but she has a pretty good social life and is still working.
I have fixed her up in the past to come out with us a couple of times in a foursome...nothing has come of it though.

Good on her not 'settling'...

Out of my group of friends theres only one of us who's single and although she'd obviously like to meet someone, she says it would have to be someone REALLY special because she likes her indipendence too much. She's gorgeous and could get with someone tomorrow if she wanted but she won't do that just for the sake of it.
I do hope she meets someone though!!

by **jezzi** Mon Apr 15, 2013 10:21 am

Maybe it's just me but I don't want to be in a relationship.

I don't feel lonely at all.

I have had a couple of long term relationships over the years and don't feel I'm missing anything.

I have planned this.

by **jezzi** Mon Apr 15, 2013 10:22 am

Gabby wrote:You're far from lonely being single..... there's no fucking restrictions! lol

absolutely.

by Guest Mon Apr 15, 2013 10:30 am

jezzi wrote:Maybe it's just me but I don't want to be in a relationship.

I don't feel lonely at all.

I have had a couple of long term relationships over the years and don't feel I'm missing anything.

I have planned this.

I can think of nothing worse than not being in a relationship but i would suppose that we all adapt once we fall out of one..tbf..I think that as you get a little bit older you tend to worry a bit more about finding a new partner but perhaps that's just me...Perhaps i'm being a little bit selfish because i know that after all of these years that my partner and i will only be separated by death..but that's a very nice position to be in and i wouldn't change the situation for the world.

by **lemon** Mon Apr 15, 2013 9:29 pm

jezzi wrote:I don't know why people that choose to remain single get dissed.

I know quite a few people that enjoy having the freedom to do what they want when they want.

I love being single. I don't want a partner. I don't feel I miss out on anything either.

As for this lonely in old age shit. Your partner could die at anytime so that's that sketched fucked

It's not single people who get dissed. But people who are in relationships who act like single people, i.e by cheating. Hurting people or taking the piss out of them in relationships is wrong, I feel. It's unfair and cruel. Being single? Now't wrong with that so long as you don't hurt others.

by **lemon** Mon Apr 15, 2013 9:34 pm

philagain wrote:
Gabby wrote:
Syl wrote:

Haha...you sound like you are the kind who sews prawns in the curtain lining before they leave Phil.

Or kippers under the car bonnet, lol

He stalked an ex partner and threw bricks through his window....

When my ex stayed out all night (I suspected his cheating arse) I chucked all his clothes into the street through the bedroom window in a fit of pique. Every single fucking item, right down to his underpants. Calvin Kleins were flapping in the gutter and his £200 jeans were hanging from the bay window gutter. He had to borrow a ladder from a neighbour to retrieve them all. Took him all morning. It was a Sunday morning so all the neighbours had a bit of entertainment that day. My only regret is that it didn't rain that day.

by **lemon** Mon Apr 15, 2013 9:38 pm

Gabby wrote:You're far from lonely being single..... there's no fucking restrictions! lol

I think that's true when you're young. It would perhaps be another ball game at, say, 65. At that age you might need companionship, love and devotion, someone to look after you when you feel ill, your parents are gone, your friends might be gone, you have no kids. We all get old, every single one of us, and as we do, I think our priorities change too.

by **Snookerballs** Mon Apr 15, 2013 9:53 pm

lemon wrote:
Gabby wrote:You're far from lonely being single..... there's no fucking restrictions! lol

I think that's true when you're young. It would perhaps be another ball game at, say, 65. At that age you might need companionship, love and devotion, someone to look after you when you feel ill, your parents are gone, your friends might be gone, you have no kids. We all get old, every single one of us, and as we do, I think our priorities change too.

Roy Hattersley. Divorced at 80 !!

http://www.yorkshirepost.co.uk/news/at-a-glance/general-news/roy-hattersley-gets-divorce-at-age-80-1-5581733

by **Melfi** Tue Apr 16, 2013 1:58 am

lemon wrote:
Gabby wrote:You're far from lonely being single..... there's no fucking restrictions! lol

I think that's true when you're young. It would perhaps be another ball game at, say, 65. At that age you might need companionship, love and devotion, someone to look after you when you feel ill, your parents are gone, your friends might be gone, you have no kids. We all get old, every single one of us, and as we do, I think our priorities change too.

Yeah, I know my mate struggles now for people to go out with and she's only 34!! It's something I always feel a bit guilty about. I just don't have the money or the time that she does, plus I want to spend time with my family at the weekends. She understands that, but I know she finds it frustrating when she wants a night out and everyone is having "cosy nights in".

by **Syl** Tue Apr 16, 2013 2:06 am

I think there are a lot of people on their own in their 40's and older who were married but have either been divorced or lost their partner through death...especially women.
When my OH was working it seemed every month some male workmate was dying, when suprisingly young too.
Our best mate died when he was just 50, he left a widow behind and she is living quitly on her own now, but it's not the future she had planned.

by **Melfi** Tue Apr 16, 2013 2:17 am

Syl wrote:I think there are a lot of people on their own in their 40's and older who were married but have either been divorced or lost their partner through death...especially women.
When my OH was working it seemed every month some male workmate was dying, when suprisingly young too.
Our best mate died when he was just 50, he left a widow behind and she is living quitly on her own now, but it's not the future she had planned.

Just yesterday a neighbour told me her husband had been diagnosed with cancer in November and that it's "not looking good". He's only about 40, no age at all.

Their little girl is 8 and plays with my daughter most days. I shut the door behind me and cried after she'd told me... It just doesn't bare thinking about.

by **Syl** Tue Apr 16, 2013 2:28 am

Melfi, it 's sad to even think about, but it seems to happen so often to all age groups.
My friends brother was fit as a fiddle ...suddenly he had problems, went to the Dr's thinking it was something and nothing and in a few months he had died of stomach cancer.
He left 3 kids, 2 grown up but the younger one was 15 and it hit him very hard indeed.

Hopefully your neighbour will pull through. x

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