Were you ever suspicious of a former partner?

philagain wrote:.....i was once and i remember checking the ashtray out when i came back from a trip away...I knew what brand fags that we smoked and we never had friends over to our place....I remember finding foreign brands in the ashtray

lemon wrote:

philagain wrote:.....i was once and i remember checking the ashtray out when i came back from a trip away...I knew what brand fags that we smoked and we never had friends over to our place....I remember finding foreign brands in the ashtray

Always follow your gut, I say.

philagain wrote:

lemon wrote:

philagain wrote:.....i was once and i remember checking the ashtray out when i came back from a trip away...I knew what brand fags that we smoked and we never had friends over to our place....I remember finding foreign brands in the ashtray

Always follow your gut, I say.

I think you know anyway when something isn't right...Sounds a bit cheesy but i found the right partner in the end and there were some terrible times at the start where i was working very long hours and he cheated on me...We used to beat each other up...But in the end we got past that and we are now celebrating our 13th year together...I think that we both knew that our relationship was worthwhile and we both had issues that needed to be addressed!

Ravy wrote:Most of my girlfriends have been suspicious of me.
I just can't manage to be faithfull. (I see a nice pair of legs and then I don't use my brain anymore).
I am not particularly proud of it but it is my nature I suppose.

lemon wrote:

philagain wrote:

lemon wrote:

Always follow your gut, I say.

I think you know anyway when something isn't right...Sounds a bit cheesy but i found the right partner in the end and there were some terrible times at the start where i was working very long hours and he cheated on me...We used to beat each other up...But in the end we got past that and we are now celebrating our 13th year together...I think that we both knew that our relationship was worthwhile and we both had issues that needed to be addressed!

All relationships require work. It's about giving on both sides.

Ravy wrote:Well at least I am honest about it Lemon.
I enjoy living alone

philagain wrote:.....i was once and i remember checking the ashtray out when i came back from a trip away...I knew what brand fags that we smoked and we never had friends over to our place....I remember finding foreign brands in the ashtray

Syl wrote:

philagain wrote:.....i was once and i remember checking the ashtray out when i came back from a trip away...I knew what brand fags that we smoked and we never had friends over to our place....I remember finding foreign brands in the ashtray

No not really, I am the trusting sort. I think I would instinctively know if anything was amiss though, for one thing
I have a very keen sense of smell.

Syl wrote:

philagain wrote:.....i was once and i remember checking the ashtray out when i came back from a trip away...I knew what brand fags that we smoked and we never had friends over to our place....I remember finding foreign brands in the ashtray

No not really, I am the trusting sort. I think I would instinctively know if anything was amiss though, for one thing
I have a very keen sense of smell.

Henry wrote:

Syl wrote:

philagain wrote:.....i was once and i remember checking the ashtray out when i came back from a trip away...I knew what brand fags that we smoked and we never had friends over to our place....I remember finding foreign brands in the ashtray

No not really, I am the trusting sort. I think I would instinctively know if anything was amiss though, for one thing
I have a very keen sense of smell.

An active nose? Now there's a surprise.

philagain wrote:

Syl wrote:

philagain wrote:.....i was once and i remember checking the ashtray out when i came back from a trip away...I knew what brand fags that we smoked and we never had friends over to our place....I remember finding foreign brands in the ashtray

No not really, I am the trusting sort. I think I would instinctively know if anything was amiss though, for one thing
I have a very keen sense of smell.

You are right...at that time i knew that things weren't right and the relationship folded about two months after that discovery.

Syl wrote:

philagain wrote:

Syl wrote:

No not really, I am the trusting sort. I think I would instinctively know if anything was amiss though, for one thing
I have a very keen sense of smell.

You are right...at that time i knew that things weren't right and the relationship folded about two months after that discovery.

I cant think of anything worse than having to cope with infidelity tbh...it's all the lies and the deceit that go along with it.
I have seen so many relationships crumble this way...and even if they dont there usually seems to be something missing afterwards. Trust is important...once it's broken it takes a long time to get back I think.

philagain wrote:

Syl wrote:

philagain wrote:

You are right...at that time i knew that things weren't right and the relationship folded about two months after that discovery.

I cant think of anything worse than having to cope with infidelity tbh...it's all the lies and the deceit that go along with it.
I have seen so many relationships crumble this way...and even if they dont there usually seems to be something missing afterwards. Trust is important...once it's broken it takes a long time to get back I think.

Relationships can survive infidelity though...if you own a house together or are joint tenants...That might make you work harder to save it though...But IMO there has to be some kind of love involved as well a bit of age

Syl wrote:

philagain wrote:

Syl wrote:

I cant think of anything worse than having to cope with infidelity tbh...it's all the lies and the deceit that go along with it.
I have seen so many relationships crumble this way...and even if they dont there usually seems to be something missing afterwards. Trust is important...once it's broken it takes a long time to get back I think.

Relationships can survive infidelity though...if you own a house together or are joint tenants...That might make you work harder to save it though...But IMO there has to be some kind of love involved as well a bit of age

I think you are right Phil, I think if you both love each other relationships can survive most things if you both work at getting it back together.
Personally I would find infidelity a huge hurdle to get over though...but thats just me.

philagain wrote:

Syl wrote:

philagain wrote:

Relationships can survive infidelity though...if you own a house together or are joint tenants...That might make you work harder to save it though...But IMO there has to be some kind of love involved as well a bit of age

I think you are right Phil, I think if you both love each other relationships can survive most things if you both work at getting it back together.
Personally I would find infidelity a huge hurdle to get over though...but thats just me.

Oh i was none to happy about it and made his life a misery for a number of months...I slept with an ex of mine and rubbed his nose in that!

jezzi wrote:I don't know why people that choose to remain single get dissed.

I know quite a few people that enjoy having the freedom to do what they want when they want.

I love being single. I don't want a partner. I don't feel I miss out on anything either.

As for this lonely in old age shit. Your partner could die at anytime so that's that sketched fucked